Saturday, October 30, 2010
My nephew's birthday
My nephew used to ask me about his mom's teenage years. Perhaps he thought there were "secrets" back in that time. I had "stories." But the facts are that few of my sister's many high school acheivements - good grades, varsity cheerleader (no varsity sports for girls back then), boyfriends, came easily to her. She had ambitions & worked steadily to realize them, even when she failed on first try. Unfortunately, I didn't imitate her good study habits, but she was my model for how to do high school socially, how not be a nerd or weirdo. Try some sports whether you're good at them or not (I wasn't), you'll get respect from coaches & the better athletes just by trying. Like the popular music, keep the unusual music tastes in the background. Have male & female friends in your social circle, the gender-segregated quality of suburban teen culture was changing rapidly, there was a sort of proto-feminism in the wind. Go to dances with or without a date, just go. & if an opportunity to get some major positive attention happens, jump on it. When that time came, I jumped & had more than 15 minutes of high school celebrity.
My guy friends liked my sister, an "older woman" since she was two years ahead of me. A few had huge crushes on her. As much as I tormented her, I also considered her a social asset. I know I've told my nephew this. The only scandalous behavior was mine. My nephew enjoyed knowing his mom was, in most ways, a very "typical" teenager.
My minister brother started a Facebook page. I don't know why he bothers. He won't do anything with it. I'd probably lose 1/3 of my Facebook "friends" if they deleted their inactive accounts. If you're not gonna play the game, don't even join it. Of nearly 200 "friends," only a dozen or so comprise an interactive "community" I know keep up with my wall postings.
Labels: growing up